Why calling people ‘queen’ is a problem

Recently, a Facebook friend made their cover photo a pink image with the word ‘Queen’ written on it. This person is the embodiment of why I believe calling people queen is a flawed way of complimenting people. He is self-absorbed, entitled, immature and irresponsible. He is constantly validated by the people closest to him and this has been to the detriment of his growing process. He does not seem to think there is something wrong with him.

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Let’s talk about how we talk about bodies

Today I saw this post come up on my Facebook timeline and I have some thoughts about it.

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The last time I was skinny was when I was a 13 year old who ate terribly but had a high metabolism. Now, I am a 21 year old who eats healthily – if not a bit too much – and exercises, and I have a decent metabolism. My BMI is healthy, but my weight and self-love yo-yo’s constantly, as I battle between accepting my love of food and feeling the pressure that I cannot get thin enough.

It is clear to me that, due to how society is attempting to include curves into the narrative beauty standards once more, an overcompensation has been done and a lot of skinny-shaming has happened. Let me make it clear that I find this equally as disgusting as any other form of body-shaming. Promoting pride in all that you are does not need to decrease the value of other people. And vice versa: another person’s beauty is not the absence of your own.

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Why I am not so jelly about what you eat

At the beginning of this year, I officially decided to become a vegetarian. I was pleasantly surprised by how easy the transition was. Having sticks of biltong shoved under my nose posed as no temptation, not even a little bit. If anything, it was more about curbing mindless habits. When people ask me “but what do you eat?”, I want to laugh out loud. I have actually enjoyed food a lot more now that meat is not the priority in my plate.

What I did not know was that I would be giving up jelly sweets and marshmallows. I was perhaps two weeks into my new lifestyle when I found out the heart-breaking news that these treats were not vegetarian. I struggled to imagine my grocery basket without wine gums or mini marshmallows.

I didn’t know is that gelatine is made from the off-cuts of slaughtered animals. I thought it came from the hooves – in hindsight, I am not sure how I validated this for successful vegetarian diet.

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Hey CBS, Africa is still not a country

Any person who was born in one of the countries on the African continent and who has traveled out of it knows the struggle.

“Where are you from?”

“South Africa.”

“Oh! Africa!”

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How proud of beauty habits can we be?

I am not an avid vlogger fan, but occasionally Kalel’s videos titles grab my attention. Kalel is a beauty and lifestyle blogger, whose vegan food tasting videos initially caught my interest. Recently, Kalel has gotten a nose job and she has decided to be quite transparent about it on her YouTube channel.

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Our secret weapon is laughing

I grew up with dad jokes, I grew up watching Friends, I grew up watching stand-up comedy shows. I grew up laughing. I had a happy childhood. I cannot believe that it is just a coincidence that I grew up to be an optimistic, adaptable person.

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It’s not about being politically correct, it’s about being empathetic

Listen up, people who have shared this ridiculous meme. You have a lot to learn about compassionate discourse.

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Everyone that I have seen who has repost this has – at least once – complained about how everyone is trying to be so politically correct these days. This complaints have gone hand-in-hand with complaining about the guilt trip that they are put on when they make certain jokes or comments.

I can not comprehend how somebody who struggles to make jokes in a “politically correct” environment cannot understand the fundamental problem with society. Being politically correct should not be a suffocating state.. If you are struggling to not offend anyone with your jokes, you ought to have begun a journey of a thousand miles that begins with realising how offensive society is.

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